1. You two are best friends
Remember how you and your best friend could not be apart when you were a kid? You laid in the grass and watched the clouds for days on end.
At night, you talked and told each other things that you would never tell anyone else. The other person was always there to help when one of you was having trouble. Being in love with the right person makes you feel like you’re back in the good old days. You may not have time to lie in the grass because of work, school, and other obligations that conflict with each other.
Even so, you enjoy being with each other, you tell each other everything, and you know that if something happens to one of you, the two of you will deal with it together.
When you laugh or cry, you’re there for each other, and you find comfort in each other. You’re not afraid to be weak or silly. You love everything about each other and would do anything for each other.
2. You argue in a healthy way.
Not arguing at all is just as bad for you as fighting all the time. When you’re with the right person, you know that disagreements are going to happen and are truly eager to work them out.
You both trust each other enough to say what you think in an open way, and you believe that each other’s ideas are valid. You argue your case instead of attacking your partner, and you try to solve the problem instead of just ending the fight.
There are things you both want and ways to make things work for both of you. It is possible and important for some people to learn this. Your partner might be the “right person” for you if you learn these skills together.
3. You Think Long-Term
When you think about the future, your partner is there with you. You can see yourself with each other in five, ten, or even fifty years. The families of each other are already known to you, or you are working on getting together as soon as possible.
Big ideas like marriage, kids, and where to live have been talked about between the two of you. You’re both ready to give in for the sake of the relationship, and you’re happy with how things are going so far.
4. You’re OK With Being Apart
The best relationships are ones where both people live their own lives and only get together because they want to, not because they have to. When you love someone, you know you can trust them. You are not envious of her friends or the things she likes to do.
Your personal life is also good, and you like being on your own. When you’re not together, you don’t worry about whether the relationship is strong enough to last. Instead, you look forward to getting back together and sharing new stories.
5. You would rather be together.
You don’t feel threatened by being apart, and sometimes you even enjoy it. But you still want to be together. When you’re not with that person, you think about them and can’t wait to see them again. You and your partner feel like you belong in each other’s deepest lives, and you’re most at ease and comfortable when they’re around.
Different things make different people fall in love, and not all relationships are meant to last. If you’re not sure if your partner is right for you, step back and look at the connection without bias.
At least sometimes, do you feel most or all of these things? How does your partner feel? If your relationship is still pretty new, don’t worry if one or two things are missing. It takes time to build trust, and you and your partner need to find a balance that works for both of you.