When a relationship fails, the vast majority of us can state that there were warning signs somewhere along the way. Unfortunately, because the initial spark can be so hot, we are frequently blinded to the red flags.
If you’ve ever been in a horrible relationship, you know how difficult it can be. Especially when the spark has faded and all that remains are the red signs that you ignored. You may feel defeated as a result of this.
If you’re still in the early stages of a relationship and are unsure whether it’ll work out, you’ve come to the perfect place. Here are 13 early warning signals that a relationship isn’t going to work out.
1. You try to change each other.
Relationships that we enter into only for the potential of the other person, rather than for who they are, rarely end well.
What happens is that we notice a few things in each other that we enjoy, but on a basic level, we don’t match. As a result, you wind up trying to transform each other to suit a mould that you don’t already fit. This toxic push-pull relationship exists.
2. It feels forced to hang out.
When you’re together, it feels awkward or like a job. You don’t feel comfortable opening up to them, and you frequently have to force small chat to get things going. To be honest, it feels more like work than chemistry.
3. You don’t align on values.
It’s fine not to agree on everything. However, when it comes to underlying values and convictions, things can become a little more complicated. In the short run, disparities like these can be ignored.
However, if you intend to be in a long-term relationship with someone, you must agree on underlying views and inherent values. This includes financial thinking, long-term aspirations, spiritual convictions, and so on.
4. You share no common interests.
Again, you don’t have to share everything. However, the connection must have some sort of backbone in the shape of shared interests. If you and your partner despise each other’s hobbies and interests, things will become more difficult as the relationship progresses.
5. They are extremely disrespectful.
If you notice your partner being highly disrespectful to others, this is a negative omen for how they will likely treat you in the future.
And if they are currently being disrespectful to you, this is unlikely to change. Disrespect is a deal breaker, and while you may endure it at first, it will eventually pull the partnership apart.
6. They run hot or cold.
Someone who is hot or cold may be all in one moment, acting as if they are in love, and then pull back and become chilly and withdrawn the next. This is not only uncomfortable, but also perplexing. And it’s still another significant warning flag that a relationship isn’t going to work.
7. Arguing seems like a breakup.
Every relationship disputes, but when every argument makes you feel like you’re about to break up, it’s on a whole new level. Arguments in relationships should help us find common ground or, at the very least, open the door to conversation about problems that arise. Toxic disagreements, on the other hand, make you completely distrust the connection.
8. You feel the need to have someone else around them.
If you have to pretend to be someone else around your partner, you are not in the correct relationship. This indicates that there isn’t much in common, as well as the presence of fundamental distinctions. Furthermore, if you’re claiming to be someone you’re not, the relationship is already on fragile footing.
9. They are unclear on their intentions.
It’s critical to know where you’re going in a relationship. It’s natural to be unsure about where you’re heading at first. However, if you’ve been dating for a few months and still don’t grasp what the other person wants, this is a red flag.
10. Your friends and family dislike them.
Friends and family can often detect qualities in new persons that we cannot. Our friends and relatives are more alert while we are blinded. And, while they may be overly protective of us at times, it’s time to leave when the vast majority of the people you care about don’t like the person you’re with.
11. They know nothing about you.
Relationships begin with a period of getting to know one another. As a result, getting to know someone takes time. But in order to do so, we must have a real interest in one another. If your new acquaintance does not even inquire about you, your day, or anything else, they will most likely never come to know you.
12. You have fundamental differences when it comes to kids.
While you don’t want to have children right away, it’s important to understand where each other sits on this issue in the future. When this subject arises, if one of you wants children and the other does not, it is an indication that the relationship is doomed.
13. They put your patience to the test.
If this is only the beginning and this individual is already testing all of your boundaries, it will become tiresome quickly. If they leave you hanging on reading for days, make unpleasant remarks, and blow you off at the last minute, it’s a big sign that they don’t want or aren’t ready for a long-term relationship.