Despite men commonly saying women are complicated to understand, the thing is, we aren’t that hard to understand at all. It doesn’t take that much to make a woman happy and to keep her happy and invested in the relationship.
Many men assume that once they have the woman of their dreams, that’s all there is to it. No further work is necessary. And while it isn’t hard to make a woman happy, there is more to it than that.
You have to at least put forth the effort to show her what she means to you. And to do that, you need to do these 12 things.
1. Listen to her.
When she talks, don’t zone out or play on your phone. Truly pay attention to her and listen to her. Participate in the conversation and be an active listener.
2. Be vulnerable with her.
Don’t be afraid to show her your feelings and to let her see your emotional side.
Let her know how you are feeling, and don’t put walls up between you to act tough. She doesn’t care about how tough you are; she wants to know you are in this together.
3. Compromise with her.
When arguments arise, don’t try to take control and ‘win.’ Instead, show her that you can compromise by seeking common ground.
4. Consider her feelings without her asking.
Don’t wait for her to ask you to do something considerate; instead, maintain consideration for her feelings. Know her limits and boundaries, and be compassionate.
5. Appreciate her.
Show her appreciation by telling her how much she means to you. When she does something out of her way for you, say thank you. Make sure she knows her efforts don’t go unnoticed.
6. Never stop dating her.
Don’t ever stop dating her, ever. Even if you are married and have been together for 15 years, take her out on dates and court her as though you both just met.
7. Communicate with her.
When she talks to you, communicate back. Don’t just say yes, no, or mhm, but instead, participate in the conversation. Ask her questions, listen to her answers, and respond.
8. Show her you are there for her.
When she needs a support system, be that for her. Show her that, no matter what, you are always going to be there for her.
When you notice she is going through something difficult, make sure to show up and show support.
9. Clean up after yourself.
When you make a mess, clean it up. And when you notice chores that you can help her with, don’t wait for her to ask for your help. Offer it without her asking for your help.
10. Keep your promises.
When you make a promise to her, keep it. Don’t ever make a promise you cannot keep; otherwise, you will lose her trust, and it will take a while for you to gain it back.
11. Compliment her.
When you notice she looks beautiful without her makeup on, tell her that. Tell her that her smile is stunning. Tell her that her hair looks great. Find something you genuinely appreciate about her and compliment her on it.
12. Show her you respect her.
Always be respectful of her; even if you don’t see eye to eye, don’t ever disrespect her or make her feel as though you view her as inferior. Don’t talk to her in any way, and always treat her like a lady.